Your Emotions and Money Test (Part II) (Breaking Free)


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If you have been on that long path of trying to achieve financial freedom, yet it seems that it is a never-ending journey of ups and downs financially, perhaps there are some emotional cobwebs that you need to remove.

Statistics show that the amount of personal bankruptcies and household debt has climbed to trillions, further evidence of a growing problem. Credit counseling agencies have helped some to make the corrections but for those caught up in the emotional attachment to money; few ever look beyond bad management to ask: What’s behind this need to spend one’s self into debt and financial ruin? Where did these destructive patterns originate? What drives you to spend until you get in over your head? Why do you wait until it’s too late to seek help? Is it possible these fears, anxieties and the negatives associated with money have caused many to end up on skid row, sabotaging their careers, marriages, etc., while this secret demon is at work and the spender is none the wiser?

Suze Orman also wrote in her book: “In our culture it’s okay to talk about therapy we’ve gone through, marital problems we’ve had, our deepest intimate secrets—but telling the truth about money, confessing our worries to our children, our parents, our friends, just isn’t done. Money is our secret both in private and in public.”

According to George Kinder, a Harvard trained Certified Financial Planner, in his book The Seven Stages of Money Maturity: Understanding the Spiritual Value of Money in Your Life, demonstrates how we can literally transform our lives emotionally and financially by achieving “money maturity”—a full understanding of the spiritual and psychological issues surrounding our money lives.

Money without spiritual awareness quickly becomes a god. Those who have made it a god have suffered greatly, paid a heavy price. True money maturity takes into account a balance of spirit, mind and body operating together. When you understand that money provides but is not THE PROVIDER, then and only then will you be content with the money you acquire and the financial freedom you desire.

As you move through these roadblocks, one step at a time, remember you are trying to achieve “Money Maturity”. If you discover your emotions about money is connected to a person, forgive them, and don’t forget to forgive yourself. Keep in mind your goal is to turn those unhealthy emotional attachments into detached healthy feelings toward money.

Take a piece of paper and journal your feelings about money. Do you feel guilty? Why do you feel guilty? Who is responsible for you feeling this way? Keep asking the question until you get the right answer, the one that sets you free. Don’t be discouraged if it is not right away. It has been buried a long time. Is having money in conflict with your spiritual upbringing? You are searching for your feelings about money. Face the truth. Let the truth be like a double edge sword: Cutting and healing at the same time. The liberating end result will far outweigh the pain or discomfort and move you on to healthy emotions about money.

There are additional questions in Part I which can add to what you have learned here. If you haven’t read that yet, you might want to click here.

Let me know what you think.

Keep the Faith,
Blondie Clayton