“No matter what you’ve done for yourself or for humanity, if you can’t look back on having given love and attention to your own family, what have you really accomplished.” Elbert Hubbard
I know I had not spent much time with my baby brother over our adult years, except for our once a year meeting at family reunion, because I keep putting it off. I guess getting older changes your priorities.
It never bothered me until these latter years. I began asking myself: “Why aren’t we close? Why haven’t we felt the need to stay in touch, to keep our children in touch with each other?”
Neither one of us are the keep in touch type. If I was around him, we connected, but when we parted I just couldn’t seem to keep the connection. . . out of sight out of mind, so to speak. It is not because I didn’t want to but I just didn’t keep it as a priority in my mind.
Our mother kept us in touch, shared what was going on in each of our lives. It wasn’t until six months after her death that I realized that it was on us now to make the effort to stay in touch.
What about you? Have you been in touch with your siblings or parents on a regular basis? Do you feel a disconnect from your family, or maybe even your adult children?
I kept putting it off, but I finally made the trip to see my baby brother. Sitting there in the midst of my brother’s children, who are now all grown up with children, I realized I missed those years and the opportunity to have been a part of their lives.
I was proud to see how the children got along with each other. It was admirable. I witnessed the love they had for each other and my brother, who had been sick, how they cared for him.
Back at home I couldn’t get them out of my mind. It made me think about being in the family of God, what my life was like before, how disconnected I felt, the hopelessness and the hole in my heart. And how yielding my life to Jesus filled that void I always had for an earthly family.
But more than anything else my spiritual eyes came open. He wanted me to see him reflected in my earthly family, that making the decision to visit, spend time, get to know, to stay in touch was what he also wants from us.
My heart was moved. Family started with him. Yet we oftentimes neglect our earthly family. Loving Him means that I extend love to my earthly family, that through my efforts of reaching out I demonstrate His love.
I am thankful to the writer who penned these words “. . .we continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives.” (Colossians 1: 9).
What seems like it is tough, we have the victory, those who were before us have already prayed for our wisdom and understanding, that we would not look in the natural but look to the spirit to guide us into what pleases God.
So if my brother never visits me, I have done what I believe pleases God.
Let me know what you think.
Keep the faith,