How do you feel when you are sitting somewhere waiting on someone to arrive and they show up late? Are there people you know who drain you within a few minutes in their presence? Or they just seem to rub you the wrong way?
If you have found yourself in any of these situations, you have just had your emotions hijacked. That means another person has taken control and you are no longer in control.
Think about that! From that moment until you resolve your feelings they take up your thoughts. You might even lose some sleep over what they have done.
Here is what you need to know: you can’t change their behavior, only God can do that. What you have to do is decide how you are going to let it affect your performance and how much of your mind space you are going to allow them to reside in.
I desire to live in harmony with people, but people do not make it easy. Nothing has changed there, has it? People have been selfish since the beginning of time. It has been about them.
Some things to ponder: is it worth losing sleep over? Look at the time wasted thinking on that situation. Time taken away from doing something that was going to improve your life both physically and spiritual and you allowed a person to take ruler ship over you.
So what do you do? Once you realize that the situation is past and if you are still dwelling on it, stop! When I find myself in one of those situations I pray and ask the Lord to remove that thought from me. I make it a point to think a different thought, think on things lovely, as the bible says.
People situations can swallow you up in frustration and lead to depression because you can’t fix them, and you can’t. The only thing you have control over is what you do. I remember a certain lady would always arrive late for business meetings and once she came in everything stopped to accommodate her. Everything we had already discussed had to be repeated for her.
I thought that was very rude. Yes, I was fuming, “how dare she; my time is valuable too.” There are some people you have to work with no matter what type personality they have. She was important in what we were planning to do. I could have stormed out and refuse to work with her, but there would always be one like her in the next event, or meeting.
My choice was to put my differences and feelings to the side, to think of working together, recognize that she was not me, accept her personality and not allow what I thought she should do to become a stumbling block to where we were trying to go.
It was not easy, but I chose to do what God would have wanted me to do rather than what I thought I could not put up with. Difficult personalities can try you, every part of your being, but learning to accept the faults of others and love them anyway is what the Father does for us.
It’s In You!
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Keep the faith,