The Healing Hug!

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Need a Hug

“Never underestimate the power of a single Hug; it can express Emotion that might otherwise go unnoticed, convey meaning beyond that which words can articulate, and heal wounds more effectively than any poultice.” Vernon E. Black

(Story Submitted by Cheryl Anderson and published by Permission)

Have you ever craved a healing hug and didn’t know it? Psychologists say we need four hugs a day to survive; eight to maintain or preserve ourselves and twelve to grow. That means many of us are severely deficient.

How many hugs did you give or get today?

I am a person who loves hugs. I discovered just how much I missed my daily dose of hugs after I left my corporate job to pursue another endeavor. My hugs have been few and far between in my new position.

We are social beings but have you noticed how many seem to shy away from physical contact? It’s about keeping your distance, protecting your personal space.

We gladly offer a handshake instead of a kiss on the cheek. Much focus is put on eating right and exercising. I think hugs should be included as a mood booster health remedy.

And then it hit me: a few months after leaving my job, I was having a frustrating day. It seemed like everything I did or tried went wrong. I burnt the toast at breakfast, my computer kept freezing up, and I was in physical pain.

I decided to leave everything and head out for the local Wal-Mart. I needed some fresh air, plus there were a few things I needed to purchase. For a moment I thought of reaching for something sweet to make me feel better.

Instead I walked through the parking avoiding eye contact. This was not a day for saying “hello,” just grab what I needed and go. Upon entering the store I headed to the shopping cart area. A woman was having a difficult time getting a cart. Everyone she tried was stuck. I decided to help her . . . not out of the goodness of my heart, but because she was delaying my shopping.

I untangled the cords on the shopping carts, pulled a cart for her and myself. She looked at me and said, “Thank you.” She did not stop at that. She said, “May I give you a hug?” We moved closer and she gave me the biggest hug I had received in months.

My eyes teared up. I felt a sense of relief. I thought, “That’s what I needed, a hug.” My whole outlook on my day changed. The pain subsided. I walked away smiling and continued smiling at people as I shopped.

Don’t let this day go by without giving someone a hug. Hugs are free but the priceless benefits are brighter days and stronger hearts.

Keep the faith.

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Stepping Out of the Shadows

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The quicksands of life can only take you down if you don’t have a reason or purpose to work toward. Your circumstances will only define you if you accept them as your end. You are amazing. God created you to walk in His purpose and power . . . nothing less.

Stepping out of the shadows is about limiting the negative voices, increasing the positive, tapping into your God given life purpose.

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

Stepping Out of the Shadows (Click audio below)


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Make It Work! Time Is Still On Your Side!

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“If we do what is necessary, all the odds are in our favor.”
Charles Buxton

How you handle your moments can make the difference in the results. Like daylight savings time gains us an hour but it doesn’t add any more time to a day. Each of us still has the same 24 hours.

Daylight savings time has a few advantages: If you like gardening, you can spend more time doing that; if you are on a walking exercise regimen you would have more daylight; you definitely can plan more outdoor activities around having more hours of sunlight.

But I do have a complaint. . . This changing of time throws off my sleep pattern; I feel as if I’m running out of time; I always feel like I am behind trying to catch up; simply put, I feel like a round peg trying to fit in a square hole.

The question I ask: does anyone besides me feel this way with the advent of daylight savings time?

There are some things you can control and some you can’t, and that is one I would like to but it is out of my control. I have been working on this for the past few years, trying to figure out ways to be in harmony with daylight savings time.

What did I do?

I started a few days before, telling myself that this is temporary and it won’t last forever . . . that “Fall” will be here soon and that my season will come again. I even set my watch ahead one (1) hour a day before.

What was I attempting to do?

I decided to take control of what I knew was going to happen; so I prepared myself mentally to face it a few days early. Yes, I can report that it made the transition easier.

Is this how you feel sometimes about where you are in life and what you want to do? Do you feel rushed, or like you’re behind, or what you are working toward seems so far off? Are you taking control, or letting it control you?

Don’t answer too quickly.

Where you are now could be the result of either your desire to make something happen or you have decided to let change swallow you up. Nothing stays the same. We are getting better, or getting worse.

Complaining about daylight savings time won’t change it; I am affected by it no matter what.

So what is the first step? Recognize! Recognize! Accept that your mindset needs a shift; perhaps negative thoughts are clouding your possibilities. Or you are in such a rush to get something done; you can’t see the trees because you’re focused on the forest (what’s happening).

Whatever season you find yourself, make it work and refuse to QUIT. God does have a plan for your life and I believe that for you the best is yet to come.

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Blessed Opportunities!

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“A heavenly opportunity may not be wrapped as you expect.”


Blessed Opportunities!
by Cheryl Anderson
(guest blogger)

Have you ever been awakened by God in the middle of the night? Becoming fully conscious, did you sense that you needed to pray for someone? Or have you been awakened and have no idea why you are wide awake and cannot go back to sleep?

The latter happened to me. In the middle of the darkness of the room, I suddenly became wide-awake. I have to admit I got a little frustrated because my sleep was interrupted. When I looked at the clock and it was 3:41 a.m. Talking to God about why I was wide-awake was not one of my first thoughts; instead, they were how much time I had before the alarm clock would go off; how many hours of sleep I would be missing, and what was on my schedule later that day.

After realizing sleep was not forthcoming, I finally started talking to God. Immediately I felt compelled to pray for a friend’s autistic son. He was lifted up to the throne of our King, asking for intervention and safety. I do not remember how long I was praying because the Holy Spirit obligated me.

Two days later when I met my friend, I told her the date and time I was awakened to pray for her son. She said on that night, her son had an allergic reaction to a new medication he was taking. He began to have difficulty breathing and she took him to the emergency room.

I am honored at the promptings to pray anytime the Master asks. I am better at responding, especially in the middle of the night because someone needs God’s help.

It is not always clear why any of us need to pray for others or what the prayer results will be. I do believe prayers are powerful and answered. God will often call His servants to pray at night because that might be the only time we are quiet enough to hear His voice.

Now when God wakes me up in the middle of the night, I do not see it as an interruption of sleep. I view it as an opportunity to ask Him who or what to pray for. I believe one day I will see the results of the quiet prayers that were uttered in the darkness.

I now view interruptions as Blessed Opportunities for ministry.

If you were awakened by God in the middle of the night, what did He ask of you?

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You Are A Woman With Purpose. . . Believe

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It’s time to stop selling yourself short. Don’t waste time. Pick up right where you are and began something new, something you have always wanted to do.

What do you know how to do? Everything you have ever done has purpose and can be used either to help, teach and personally develop others. You are in demand and have sat there thinking that you have nothing to offer. You have more to offer than you have given yourself credit for.

Stop wanting what other people have and use what you have been given, or trained to do. Have you sat down and truly assessed what you know, have done in the past, and the gifting that God has given you? I remember being a pregnant teen, sitting at home waiting for my delivery time, nothing to do. There wasn’t enough cleaning and cooking in the world to occupy a whole day.

An idea came to me: “Why don’t you spend this time learning something new that can help you get a job later.” At the time I had taken one semester of typing, just to learn the keyboard and maybe to start building up some typing speed.

I had no skills for the work world. I could have ignored those thoughts, but instead my mind went to work to carry out this idea. The first thing I did was think about what I knew how to do. I had some typing, but I had no skills that could be used in an office.

After assessing what skills I would need, I then planned a trip to the library to search out books to help me type faster and a way to write down the spoken word in a shorthand format that could be translated into letters, memos, etc.
Let me give you an example from the many tales of my life: Those self-taught skills landed me a job in Administration, and later a promotion as Administrative Assistant to the Vice President of 19 Municipals Hospitals in New York.

I can’t do it for you. You have to believe that God, who created you, did not create junk and that you can do all things with His wisdom.

I hope this has given you something to think about. If no one else has encouraged you or told you that you can do it, let me be the first. You Can Do It!

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

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You Keep Thinking Your Situation Is All About You!

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(A page from my journal on February 2, 2015)

All day today I’ve been thinking about my husband’s upcoming procedure. He will be admitted to the outpatient department. It should be simple, so I was told.

Nothing about hospitals and doctors are ever simple to me. I have fear. It’s there. It’s real. I don’t like these thoughts. . . feelings. I wish it was over, but there’s another 24 hours to wait.

I asked my sister-in-law to pray for us, and she did. I even asked a few close friends to send up prayers. I was out of my comfort zone. I am married to the eternal optimist about everything. He never voices doubt, or negative; he is always sure there is going to be a positive outcome.

Waiting is a part of life. It’s not going to happen until an appointed time. My thinking about it won’t make it happen any faster. I could try worrying but I don’t think it will make something happen quicker.

So I choose to pen my thoughts on this paper in the hopes that you might relate, or that you will draw hope and inspiration from what you face now or in the future.

What are you facing right now? Is it a sick child? Have you lost your job? Are you worried about money? Is your health challenging you right now? Perhaps you are not making the money you thought you were going to make. Maybe you invested in your business and the return has been disappointing.

No matter what situation you find yourself right now, chances are it is occupying your thoughts. You may even have some fearful or doubting moments, wondering what the end is going to be.

At this point you may be struggling to think pass the situation. You can’t see the bright side.

I knew I could not change what was about to happen. Everything was moving along. What had to be done had to be done.

What we go through on this journey through life has its good times and not so good times. The not so good times are moments of reflection. This is the place where we examine what really is important to us.

My situation brought to mind the story of Hannah in 1 Samuel. Hannah wanted a child. Her existence felt meaningless without being able to give birth. She would go to the temple and pray herself into a drunken and tearful state, to the point the priest of the temple accused her of being drunk.

In a way I felt like Hannah: I wanted the procedure to be over, that there would be a positive outcome. I didn’t pray myself into a drunken and tearful state, but I felt the sting of uncertainty, the not knowing, the wondering: will this day end with life or death.

Hannah thought it was about her wants, but the child she would bear would be God’s chosen prophet to communicate His heart to His chosen people.

Yes, it is okay to have a moment. . . take some time. You can even entertain fear. . . but only for a moment. Yes, there are some things you cannot change; they are not within your control.

And then the calm came. There was a shift in my thinking. I felt a surge of peace, signaling me to believe, trust and to keep the faith because it wasn’t going to be over until it was over.

What a breath of fresh air that was. As soon as I released it all, in comes a lady whose husband was going through the same procedure. She was visibly fearful, talking incessantly, assessing even her own mortality.

I got through mine just in time to be a light in the afternoon for her. Thank you, LORD, I didn’t know you were setting things up in the midst of my going through.

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An Inspiring Story. . .

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An Inspiring Story

Today was one of those days where I didn’t want to get up. I heard the alarm go off twice, but I still held to my covers. Why didn’t I want to get up? I didn’t feel tired. I wasn’t sick. As a matter of fact, I felt pretty good. I just wanted to lay there, do nothing.

Have you ever had a day like that? You can’t explain it but you just want to stay in bed, sleep longer, or just lay there twisting and turning. . . your time.

It seems the older I get, periodically, I have to fight this urge to just vegetate. So what gets you up and out each day?

What got me up, I had some place to be, something to do. If I didn’t have anything to do, I might not have gotten up. I remember a time when I had no plans and no place to be, pretty soon, I was isolated and before I knew it I was in a state of depression, where I didn’t want to get up.

Living life can be like that some times, I suppose, where you lose perspective, things begin to get blurred.

As I was writing I thought about biblical characters and their lives. The story that came to mind: Elijah and the widow at Zarephath in 1 Kings 17:7-16. Upon his arrival he asked that she give him a drink of water and a piece of bread.

Her response: “As surely as the Lord your God lives, I don’t have any bread, only a handful of flour in a jar and a little olive oil in a jug. I am gathering sticks to take home and make a meal for myself and my son, that we may eat it and die.”

As you can see, she had given up. She was ready to die. Sometimes life just beats us down, doesn’t it; we may even feel there is no way out.

Elijah said to her, “Don’t be afraid. Go home and do as you have said. But first make a small loaf of bread for me from what you have and bring it to me, and then make something for yourself and your son.”

How many of you would have thought, “He must be crazy. This is all I have and he what?” I might would have said that, or at least thought it too.

Elijah didn’t leave her hanging. She recognized he was a man of God, and now Elijah moves to ease her mind about the little she thinks she has:
“For this is what the Lord, the God of Israel, says: ‘the jar of flour will not be used up and the jug of oil will not run dry until the day the Lord sends rain on the land.”

What she had in her hands was about to become a blessing from a stranger. There must have been something in his tone that led her to obey.

That act of obedience and believing that it wasn’t over, as spoken by the man of God, brought a bountiful harvest. She had food every day for Elijah and her son. The bible says the jar of flour was not used up and the jug of oil did not run out just as Elijah had spoken.

What you have in your hand right now, if that is all you have, pray and ask the Lord to help you to do what needs to be done.

Elijah brought hope to the widow. When nothing seems to be working right, cry out to him; he hears even the simplest of requests.

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,

Blondie Clayton

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There Is A Bigger Picture. Look For It!

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“Why worry about things you cannot change. Have faith – Let go and move on, because life isn’t waiting.”
Author Unknown

Oh, what Eve must have felt like when one son killed the other and was sent away? She lost two sons. I believed she must have longed for him. Perhaps even wondered why he would do such a thing to his brother. Maybe she even wanted to rescue him, to visit, to comfort, to let him know she cares.

The other day I sat in the chair by my bed and began to talk to the LORD. I told him that I needed some encouragement because I was feeling a little overwhelmed.

Where do you go when you are overwhelmed with the hand of life dealt to you? Do you withdraw into a quiet place? Are you short with people? Or do you allow it to cause you to be moody?

Troubles are not unique just to us; it has always been, since the world began. It is what we do with trouble when it comes that determine our fitness to live out the rest of our life’s journey in peace.

What do I do? I write to encourage myself and others. In the midst of our going through there is a solution. It may not readily come, or even come when you want it but it will be right on time.

Oh, how much I have grown from all of my troubles year after year. In the midst of it all, I find myself rising up with power. I pulled it together, drew the strength to declare God’s promises, and, yes, ask him to help me get over myself, to trust completely in Him. . .

So after a cloudy day, the sun will shine again and brighter than ever. What was thought to be a day filled with nothing but clouds, turned out to be a blessing from God in spite of what things looked like.

Keep the Faith.

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Recognizing When Your Heart Has Grown Faint In What You Do

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“Though no one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” Carl Bard

Have you reached your potential at work? What about in your relationships? Are you the kind of dad, or mom, you want to be? Do you feel that you are lacking in enthusiasm for daily living?

If you are not, then what is holding you back? Why are you not giving what you do your all?

I remember my first job, filing for an insurance company. I was 16. I was excited to get the job but had my spirits dampened by full time employees who didn’t like my enthusiasm and how quickly I did my job.

I thought, “How does one stretch out a filing job for 8 hours? It just didn’t make sense.”

As I look back, I’ve come to realize there are some people who go to work, just to be going to work, to do as little as possible to get through the day. And there are others who go to work to give their all, commit to being a part of a team for the good of the whole.

Think about the job you are doing right now? Is it challenging you, pushing you to your highest potential? Have you gotten so complacent, you take off sick time, don’t want to go, or you are always be late?

If your potential is not challenged in what you do for a living, chances are you are carrying that same behavior over into everything else in your life. It could be evidencing itself as unhappiness, restlessness, laziness or lack of motivation.

Don’t get me wrong, jobs produce income and income provides for lifestyle. But is there a tugging on you to do more, to change directions, to stretch out?

So what is the solution? This is what changed my attitude toward whatever I find myself doing:
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.” Colossians 3:23-24
As I apply this truth to all that I do I find an ever flowing stream of excitement, purpose and joy.

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

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My Eyes Are Tearing Up Right Now. . . Why?

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“Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet” Aristotle

Are you struggling spiritually? Feeling as though you are not sure what God is doing? You want to take control, guide the ship, so you try a few things but nothing is seemingly flowing together? Have you just given up, maybe even feeling a little doubtful that what God has promised you will ever happen?

That is how I have been feeling. I am spiritually hungry all the time. I want to do more, but unclear on where God is directing me; and, yes, impatient. That has been my biggest battle. I want it to happen now.

I have stepped out to learn, grow and change; I am doing spiritually related works, such as workshops, internet talk topics, writing, radio talk, television, bible studies, classes, etc. only to realize there is still a hunger in my heart.

For years I have asked the LORD, “What is going on?” and he has been silent.

So I continued to get all excited, prepare for each undertaking. At times even feeling frustrated, wondering why God was giving me pieces and not the whole picture.

My eyes are tearing up right now as I attempt to continue to write from eyes that have been opened. Yes, I can set my own goals, what I think God wants and go do it. It is my discovery that the better place to be is humbled, allowing God to lead, be willing to follow no matter where He takes you.

I have come to recognize that it is better for God to lead, mold and shape, rather than me. Why is that? Because it keeps pride in check; that way, I can’t boast about what I did, but what He does.

What did I learn? That everything has purpose in God’s plan for your life. Nothing is ever lost or can’t be used. All of those ideas, the preparation, the execution was teaching me something greater than I ever dreamed.

It taught me great patience. It forced me to take action in spite of; to walk in faith. It reminded me of the character in the bible named Abraham, when the LORD told him to take his family and go to a land that he will show him.

That is what it is like on a journey that God is in control of. I learned that these events, actions, preparations, tasks were preparing me for the bigger picture of what God wanted me to do.

Perhaps you maybe feeling like I felt: a lot of pieces; disappointments; trails that lead to no where (or so you think); you want to move on but you are uncertain about God’s plan for your life.

Accept where you are. Take action any way. Be patient. Put your best into whatever ideas come to you that you feel are led by God. He is not leading to doubt, or a dead end. It is an end, but an end in Him and what he has planned for your life.

I’ve discovered that the path to where God leads you is not always straight. There maybe some hoops to slow you down, make you better, but be not concerned, keep your heart focus and leave the rest to Him.

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,

Blondie Clayton

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