“Love one another and help others to rise to the higher levels, simply by pouring out love. Love is infectious and the greatest healing energy.” Sai Baba
My sister and I had been estranged for years. I didn’t know what I had done to cause such a disconnect. We were sisters. What happened? I really got use to her not being a part of my life until one day I had this urge to sit and write her a letter.
Is there someone in your life that you need to say something to, ask their forgiveness, clear the air, but you just don’t know where to start, or don’t feel you can face them, but you know you need to do something before it’s too late?
I created this guide as a way of kick starting your thoughts.
Share Your Love
“I love you. I’ve always loved you. Perhaps I have done or said something that has put this wedge between us.”
Just begin to write your first thoughts, whatever they maybe. Don’t be concerned with anything except writing what you feel. Just say what is on your mind when you start.
“I’ve never known what to do about my past, what I experienced at the hands of family and friends.”
Admit your shortcomings, lack of understanding, confusion.
Be Truthful About Your Feelings
“After speaking with you yesterday I felt compelled to share some things with you.”
Tell why you are writing. If something has prompted you to do this, say it.
“I felt I let you down, I carried that guilt for a lifetime; I, a 13 year old child could not save her babies. . . my younger siblings.”
Let them know that though they may have gone through something, that you too had something weighing on you.
“I blamed myself for everything that has happened to you in life because I couldn’t protect you.”
Share how events, situations, impacted you; how you handled things.
Be Prepared to Accept Rejection
“I don’t know if this letter will do anything for you at this time in your life, but I don’t want you to go to your grave not knowing who I am and what you have always meant to me.”
You’re letting them know that you are prepared either way, if they accept this letter, or reject it, it is okay, but you needed to say what you have said.
“How could I have such great love and motherly concern for children who weren’t mine?”
Allow your heart to pour out in love.
Admit Your Part
“I shut you out, along with my other siblings. No one knew my pain because I masked it well.”
Own up to your part. It is okay to allow your vulnerability to come through.
“That is where I was when I said, ‘God, take my life. It’s not worth anything. I want to die. I’ve done everything to make you kill me, yet you let me live.”
It’s okay to let them know there was a dark moment.
Why Doing This Now Is So Important?
“That day I lifted my eyes and experienced real love, without conditions, judgment or condemnation. God showed himself and my life has never been the same.”
Something has come out of all of this. And you are wanting that person to know, share in it, or to offer hope to them in their situation.
Where to Start?
Writing a healing love letter starts with a piece of paper, a pen, and letting the words flow. I always pray for guidance, the right words. Remember this is a healing love letter you are writing to re-connect, to clear the air, to bring love. That is where the love shines through as you polish what was said with the right spirit.
Let me know what you think.
Keep the faith,
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