Change Happens When You Decide You’ve Had Enough

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Read any good books lately? There are some books I go back to over and over. One such book is the story of my life after abuse. It’s called “Abused! The Results, The Plan and the Victory.” Why do I revisit the past? It encourages me and brings tears of joy to my eyes. Why? Because I have victory over what once held me as a prisoner. The sting of those horrid moments has dissipated.

On my journey I can’t help stopping and letting out a thank you; a praise and even a moment of worship. Isn’t that what we do when someone has done something for you, a thought of you, a gift for you, a kindness for you.

I once thought I was being punished. I saw the darkness of life. I wondered would I ever be different. So when I am having a moment where I have taken my eyes off of what I have and put them on the challenges, the triggers, the wrong beliefs, I go back to those pages from my life to remind me that something good has come out of the ashes.

You can’t fix the mistakes of life. You can’t erase them. You can’t wish them away. You can’t pretend they never happen. You can’t keep sweeping the happenings of life that are unpleasant back under the carpet. Sooner or later the carpet will have no more space, or the carpet will be pulled up; then what?

The question is: would you like to change where you are? Would you like to stop hiding out, living in fear, feeling shame, and feeling hopeless? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to claim your freedom?

That’s a tough one. It was for me. I didn’t know what my journey was going to entail but I was miserable doing what I was doing, living the way I was living. I lived in a guarded, protective bubble. . . sorry. . . I said “lived”. What I meant was I existed in the world but simply going through the motions, drifting along doing what I had to do, but never satisfied.

What about you? Where are you? Can you be honest with yourself, truly honest? Have you felt most of your life that something was wrong and you just didn’t know what it was? I understand. That was my life. You know what I have discovered, that I am not alone. There are many like me who are not living but existing trying to find themselves, trying to make life count, trying to understand who they are.

Are you ready to take your journey?

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

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Your Value and Purpose Is Not Determined By Circumstances

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Are you facing something right now? Do you wish God would hurry up? Are you restless, impatient and maybe even a little anxious. . . Relax. There are times I too feel like that. God has me in this place, taking me step by step. I know it’s him, yet I I want to be there already, wherever there is.

Can I be honest? I do not like uncertainty: waiting, not knowing where or what I should be doing. I have been staring at these few words at least an hour. It’s not working. The words come and stop.

What’s on my mind? A few things. And at least one thing really came as a shock. Maybe that’s it. It’s too personal to even discuss here right now. . . I can’t.

In a moment of reflection I thought of the prophets of Baal that Elijah slew and in the height of his victory, how fear of one woman sent him into flight, into hiding.

Then my mind drifted to Daniel who was thrown into the Lion’s den because he refused to pray to the King. When his accusers returned, they found Daniel sitting with the Lions like they were pets.

Both had a task to do regardless of the moments of fear and uncertainty. They realized they were into something bigger than them, that they could not do on their own. In spite of what they faced, they trusted God.

Well, let me stop right there. I’ve done it again; put my foot in my mouth, and He did it again, convicted my heart. You know what He whispered in my ears: “I’m teaching you to rely solely on me.”

What more can I say? I was humbled by those words. My heart melted and I surrendered. Perhaps the question should be, “Lord, what do you want me to do right where I am?”

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith.

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“Bad” Experiences – What Purpose Do They Serve?

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Stepping stone moments. . . Life is full of them. Just when we think we’ve settled in, or passed the test, feeling comfortable; it’s time to move on. The journey is not over yet.

What is your destiny? Are you prepared for it? How does your life experience, good and bad, fit into the picture? Can we be sure our life experiences have no place in our Godly purpose?

I think so. I believe our “bad” life experiences play a role in what God has planned for our lives. How is that? First, let me introduce you to a guy named Moses, a favorite Bible character of mine. We read about his life from beginning to end. He was to be killed as a child, rescued by the daughter of the man who wanted him dead; rescued from the water and given back to his biological mother to nurse him until he became of age.

Returned to the daughter of the king, the one who wanted him dead; taught the ways of his enemy; ended up killing and had to flee in fear of being killed for what he did.

Let me ask you: what do you think Moses was thinking? Was his mind on becoming a great leader? I don’t think so. His mind was on saving his own skin, hiding out. Think about when you are going through something, aren’t you thinking about how you are going to just make it through?

The Moses story reveals how God used a man who lacked self-confidence, who feared for his safety, who didn’t speak well, called by God but felt inadequate and unequipped to do the task.

Is that you? Has God put something on your heart? Are you too feeling inadequate and unequipped to take action? Take the steps and watch what happens. Your past experiences have value. You may not be a Moses. His experiences may not be yours, but just like Moses had a purpose, you too have something to do that only you can do.

Look how Moses started out. Today we read about his life experiences, but while he was going through he was just like us: had doubts, uncertainty, concerned about his social position, his biological family, but the task he was called to weigh heavily upon him.

Had you met Moses mother and she told her story, you might have had one of two reactions: “How could she have taken such a chance with her child, putting him in a basket on a river? Or what a loving woman to risk giving up her son to serve a greater good. She didn’t know what would happen. She tapped into that place of knowing that something good was going to come out of letting him go. She believed her son was in God’s hands.

And he was… Moses led the children of Israel out of Egypt destined for the promise land.

Life happens. Is it possible our “Bad” experiences equip, train and strengthen us for a greater purpose? Are you viewing your “bad” experiences as stepping stones, or hindrances?

“Father, we all have our moments when things don’t go quite so smooth. We ask you in those times to protect our hearts that we not become bitter and get stuck too long in that place, but whisper to us through your Holy Spirit words of encouragement and love so that we are moved to get back into the race.”

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

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The Secret Behind Visions / Dreams Rarely Discovered

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Have you ever had a dream/ vision come true? One you desired; one God gave you; or a vision while you were awake?

I started writing this a few weeks ago and just couldn’t seem to finish it. “What was I missing?” I kept asking myself. There is more to what I want to say than what I was seeing on the pages.

Examining my own life. . . As a child my sleep dreams were nightmares. Never anything good. I would be running from something; trying to find something in my sleep.

In spite of negative sleep dreams there was a time in my life I had a vision. I was in high school and they were having tryouts for the school twirler team. As I watched I was surprised at what my eyes saw: me twirling a baton on this huge field.

I had never thought nor attempted to do any physical extra curricular activity, but I made the team. The vision came true. I looked forward to being out there on the field with the team. I was the first African American to integrate the Caucasian twirler team.

It started out as my desire to be a part of this team. I wanted to see if I could do it, and I did. Once I succeeded it was no big deal. As a matter of fact, I remember thinking, “Success! Is that all there is to it?”

Why did I feel this way? What is it about succeeding at it that lost its excitement? Why wasn’t it important to me?

I accomplished something historically notable that would go down in the history of the school. Others thought it was great but all I wanted to do was to stand out, to be someone.

Reflecting on my thoughts and attitude from the past reminded me of what happened to Joseph (a biblical story I read). Joseph went to sleep, had a dream; woke up and shared his dream. It was not just one night, one dream, but two dreams. Joseph thought that it was about him elevating himself but it was bigger than that.

Joseph’s dreams were prophetic (of things to come), but he thought it was about him. My vision was about me. Different methods yet with a purpose. Victory happened quicker for me but took years for Joseph’s dreams to come true.

Why do some have vision and others have dreams? I don’t know. It happens. We later find out from Joseph’s story that his dream was for a greater purpose, to save a nation from famine. Joseph thought it was about him and being bowed down to by his family.

As a child I was having dreams but they were fearful. So if God had used dreams to move me to act to tryout for that team, perhaps he knew it would take more than that.

Why give me a vision, knowing my attitude would be the same as Joseph’s initially? What I thought and Joseph thought did not change God’s plan. Joseph was to be used for God’s purpose and I was to be used for God’s purpose.

So then what was my purpose? To integrate a team. To prepare a teenager to act confidently in the future. To be used by God when moved by God. A big deal then turned out to be steps to God’s greater good.

What Joseph and I had in common: we both were proud, self centered and thought it was really about us. My victory did not acknowledge God, didn’t even know who He was and yet still divinely used by Him.

“Father, I pray for the readers of this to take a deeper look into their life of accomplishments and successes; that they will truly connect to the greater purpose for their lives.”

Let me know what you think.

Keep the Faith,
Blondie Clayton

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Exposing The Hidden Financial Enemies Most People Reject

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“Overspending is often the result of trying to fill an emotional hole with objects. Focus on what really matters.” Dave Ramsay



Keep the faith,

Blondie Clayton

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Encouragement Comes In Strange Ways

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“God, you are my anchor in the wind of life. I trust you that as I experience the winds of life that I can stand against it because you are on my side.”

Who is holding you down? Are you moving forward in your life? Are you feeling anxious, incomplete, stuck or just can’t figure what is going on?

Staring out my bedroom window. It’s 1:45 p.m. watching the trees swaying to the movement of the wind. The swings on the swing set move slightly. I can see parts of the set. . .The netting is flapping to the wind. It has broken loose. Couldn’t hold on. It gave in. . .broke.

One of the chairs to the backyard table set has blown over. An invasive species of weeds has taken over my backyard. The tarp over the rabbit hutches blows the length of the ropes holding it and no further. The tarp is torn in places. It is the casualty of days past when conditions were unfavorable. If this tarp wasn’t tied down it would blow away. . .

As I watch I am reminded of my life’s journey: blown to and fro but able to hold on; torn but not ripped apart; times of staying in the safety zone, not willing to rock the boat.

My life is driven by something I can’t see but I know it exist. I can’t see the wind at work but I see the consequences. Sometimes we need an anchor and other times we let the wind carry us forth. What keeps me from being blown away, from being unstable?

Silently I ponder: “It’s you, Lord. You are the invisible wind behind my life. I can’t reach out and touch you physically, but I see your work and I surrender not out of fear but reverence.”

What are you looking for? Is it happiness? What do you want to happen in your life? What’s missing? Are you ready to make changes?

Never underestimate the power of what you can’t see.

Let me know what you think.

Keep the faith,
Blondie Clayton

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The Keys to Being Happy

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Do you know what it means to be happy? Why is it something most people want but never seem to find it? Could it be they really don’t know what would make them happy?

I was never happy as a child growing up. I was always sad inside. I never smiled. I never got excited about anything. I saw life from the troubles of parent’s separation, living from relative to relative, the struggles of my caregivers.

These early circumstances of my life taught me to be guarded. Don’t get too happy because disappointment follows. If I had a happy moment, sadness always set in, put a damper on those laughing, joyful times.

What was wrong with me? I never figured it out. I grew up accepting that being happy was not for me to have, so don’t fret over something you can’t understand.

My views on being happy led me to think that it happens when everything is perfect in your life: having things, money, cars, good health, friends, lifestyle. . . But is that really what being happy is all about?

What I have discovered, there are many ideas on being happy and what one can do to be happy. Some think being happy is being the best you can be; liking what you do; thinking happy thoughts; finding your purpose in life and work; being yourself; being grateful; wealth. . . the list goes on.

But will any of this make you happy? Sometimes what makes you happy is something you never thought you would be doing, but it’s a God thing.

Where do you start to be on the road to being happy? If you have been blessed to own much, have much in your life and you still are not happy, then it is not about the things. If you have grown up without, then you may first have to experience having to weed out your true desires.

I remember asking myself: “What would make me happy?” I listed a few things but that wasn’t it. It maybe a question you need to ask over and over. When you ask, examine your feelings. Are you feeling peace or anxiety? If you are feeling anxiety, then that may not be your happiness hot spot.

You will find that there are some things that will make you feel happy momentarily but won’t last; such as your husband making your favorite dessert. There is happiness there, but it fades once the dessert is eaten and another day comes.

Being happy starts with you uncovering what would make you happy. Again, I ask, what would make you happy? You may have to ask yourself this question over and over.

Perhaps being happy can be summed up for some in these words:
“Happy [blessed, considered fortunate, to be admired] is the man who finds [skillful and godly] wisdom, and the man who gains understanding and insight [learning from God’s word and life’s experiences]. . .” Proverbs 3:13 (AMP)

Again, I ask, what will make you happy?

“Lord, give us the wisdom to chase after that which is forever and to let go of that which has no savor, that brings no peace.”

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Become Courageous – – One Step At A Time

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Take A Stand For What You Believe . . . Even If No One Is On Your Side

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“I delight myself in you, giving thanks for your emotional healing.” As I sat down to finally write again after two weeks of lost desire, I cannot help but repeat these words over and over.

What was wrong with me? Why wasn’t the faucet flowing? There was a transition taking place. I got lost in what I thought was my direction only to run to a dead end.

In that place I had to evaluate me and who my joy was rooted in. I have asked the Lord to help me to delight in Him. I have desired to share His wonders, His goodness, and His ways working in my life moment by moment.

“What really is important to me? Why is it important to me?” And the word came to reveal that my heart has turned toward what has infinite duration. What do I mean by that? Doing what will change people’s lives forever, equipping others to serve others. That is where my passion lies.

I started this journey to share my life experiences and how God has revealed himself to a hard heart (mine). What could wipe away the pain; what could make me feel alive; fill me with such joy and peace . . . God’s love.

What about you? What is it that you love? What are you passionate about? If you are having a moment where it looks like nothing is happening, that you are stuck, frustrated, or not sure what God wants . . . His direction. Be still and wait upon Him.

Where do you start? Admit where you are, what you are feeling, to a trusted friend, or a spouse. If you don’t feel you have that person around, or you are reluctant to share, then write it down. It will help you to get clarity.

It is okay to cry out in your private moment, to lift your voice up in prayer, asking for help, His guidance. If it means you have to abandon something you started and have invested your time in, you are not a failure, but wise. Your choice would be to keep kicking at a wall that is impossible to come down, or to heed the wall and learn from the wall. Why is the wall there? Perhaps it’s because you are off track, and it is there to stop you from going in the direction you are headed.

Walls and roadblocks have purpose. They do not have to be permanent if we understand why they are there.

Where are you in your spiritual walk? Is it just a name? Is God your pilot or co-pilot? Or are you your own god? It’s what we think we know that can hurt us the most.

Let me know how I can help.

Keep the faith,

Blondie Clayton

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If Your Life Garden Has Weeds, It’s Time For Them To Go!

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Are you entertaining anything right now that could be affecting where you want to go in your personal life, or business? Do you recognize that there are roadblocks taking place in your life? Have you taken the time to dig deeper to see what is going on and how it is hindering your progress?

You could have some weeds that have sneaked in unnoticed and have set up camp, leaving you wondering what is going on.

Let’s see what some of your weeds could be: fear, bad attitude, bitterness, poor eating habits, laziness, doubt, procrastination, neglected relationships, etc.

A weed is a plant out of place and not intentionally sown, or a plant growing where it is overlooked until it becomes a problem.

For example, if you let the weed of bitterness remain it will move to resentment, revenge and hate. Is that what you want? Weeds growing in your life garden will choke out your joy, peace and block your progress.

If you choose to do nothing to correct the weeds growing in your life garden, you are giving it permission to be there and do whatever it wants.

There are consequences to allowing a weed to pop up and go unchecked, or ignored. A weed left to its own it will steal your well being.

How do you begin removing weeds in your life? Identify them, make a list, and begin one by one to modify, pluck up, or totally replace. Let’s say fear is a weed. Meditate on where the fear is coming from. Pray and ask the Lord to show you His light, His truth. If the weed is poor-eating, educate yourself on how to eat healthy and practice it.

More tips on getting those weeds under control:

1. Meditate on cause
2. Pray
3. Think of a new habit to replace the old one with
4. Resist the temptation to return to old habits
5. Practice the new habit till it takes root
6. Be persistent
7. Be patient
8. Commit and don’t turn back

Let me know how you’re doing pulling up the weeds in your life garden.

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